Offense verses Defence

Surrender does not necessitate victimhood. Acceptance does not require acquiescence if the moment includes opportunity and tools for defending boundaries.

Again the distinction between expectations and boundaries is crucial. An expectation puts action in the hands of others and is a matter of offensive momentum, creating situations rather than responding to them. To expect someone to meet your expectations is to demand compliance from them and gives them power over your interactions.

A boundary puts action in your hands and is defensive momentum, responding to situations rather than creating them. To expect someone to respect your boundaries is to reward compliance with your ongoing involvement with them, and gives you power over the interaction.

The best offense is a good defence. The high ground is least vulnerable to attack. Every situation has a degree of vulnerability because no two people are completely the same. Most elements on the Periodic table are reactive in the presence of other atoms, even their own kind, with the exception of the Noble Gases which react reluctantly under exceptional conditions. The moment we leave the safety of our own company, when we may need to assert boundaries and respond to the actions of others, we become volatile and reactive unless we exert Noble control.

Reflecting on your boundaries, understanding your limits and your chosen consequences of non-compliance by others, puts you in a defensive position. Awareness of the tools available in the escape room at the moment will guide your defence. Synergy has your back if you trust her. But as soon as you SEEK retribution, as soon as you procure tools rather than accept the ones Synergy offers you when the time is right, you move from a defensive position to an offensive one.

Offense generates resistance. Defence slides through resistance to the core of the purpose Synergy has given the situation. Whether in court proceedings, romance, business, sports, or everyday life, timing is everything and a defensive, open, and curious position at the key moment defines many a rousing win.

Playlists and Purpose

Which movies haunt you? What songs stay in your mind? Which books stir your soul? What resonates with you?

These are your clues in your escape room of your life. They hold the key to your spiritual awakening. Listen carefully to them and you will find your purpose. Yours and yours alone, no one else has the same purpose as you. Do your playlists have themes? Are your favourite games of a similar type? What do these things say to you?

Especially watch for synchronicity around them. The song playing on the radio right when you needed the message in those lyrics. Or a random movie makes itself available to you with things to know for your journey. Or a book literally falls open to a concept. Always be open, alert, and curious about Synergy’s offerings.

Do you see patterns? Like like thunder precedes lightning and rainbows follow rainstorms Synergy sends messages befeore and after crucial events – if you’re listening.

The messages come to ground you before or after trauma unsettles you or leaves you questioning your faith. Brace for impact if synchronicities ramp up while at peace, and look to the synchronicities to cool down with if the world has thrown vitriol and spite in your direction.

Compassion – A Different Kind of Pain

Aggression says ‘get up from there’ while standing on top of you.

Passive aggression says ‘let me help you get up from there’ while standing on top of you.

Sympathy says ‘it looks awful down there’ while standing beside you.

Empathy says ‘it sucks down here’ while laying beside you.

Compassion says ‘get out of here’ while taking your place.

Compassion is the deepest form of love and shows no regard for sex, age, race, or religion. It offers no resistance to abuse or trauma or dysfunction because it knows those who are in the greatest pain cause the most pain.

Living in the moment fills you with intense compassion because if you are not holding on to the past nor grasping at the future, you are able to treat the present moment with love, curiosity, hope and joy no matter how badly you’ve been wounded by those spending that moment with you.

Both living in the moment and living with compassion take incredible strength, courage, and endurance. The drain of allowing yourself to be vulnerable to exploitation is at times overwhelming and isolating. Keeping faith that all will be well and perseverance rewarded by peace and joy can be so excruciatingly wearisome.

But the reward always comes. You cannot ask or expect a certain form of reward – that’s a transaction, not compassion- but the pieces needed for fulfillment in your life will follow acts of brave compassion like rainbows follow rainstorms.

It doesn’t matter!

The story of how we got here doesn’t actually truly matter. Whether that’s the story of an individual, a culture, a continent, the planet, or the universe.

We are here, now, with whatever tools, resources and skills that currently exist. Examining the past can be useful, especially since patterns repeat and macrocosm reflects microcosm, but it is too easy to lose the present moment in review of the past.

The story of Synergy may simply be an interesting fairy tale or creation myth. Or it could be true. That is irrelevant. Especially since all stories are told with the bias of the teller, through the filter of the medium, and subject to the interpretation of the listener.

All that matters is this moment of existence. It is the only real, unbiased, unfiltered, unadulterated truth. And around the world people are facing the exact same existential crisis of seeing all their history, their story, their lives stripped down to bare essentials…and many have the stark realization that their existence is NON-essential within the small framework they structured their lives around.

But that is a matter of perspective. Because if everything is truly as it is meant to be, and we all have purpose, then every one of us is serving that purpose right now. Our story is changing drastically at the moment and it is so very painful. Almost unbearable. So incredibly anguishing. Devastatingly tragic.

There are people who have active roles, putting their lives at risk to save others. To save us. Their courage and bravery is obvious and wonderful and will be rewarded. Taking action in crisis is what we are designed to do.

Which is why sitting back is so hard.

But sit back we must, to clear the floor for those who are able to act. Unless able to take immediate action, we must surrender to the moment and make the choice to stay home. Unless we have a skill, ability or resource crucial to this microscopic war being fought, our trenches are the homefront.

Taking no action is surrender. It is what all of us, without power to act, need to do. How we got here doesn’t matter. What we believed in the past or will think in the future doesn’t matter. Helplessness is terrifying and draining but resisting it prolongs the pain.

There is peace and satisfaction with surrender, regardless of the trauma surrounding the house, the street, the city, the country, or the world.

Stay home. Stay safe. Stay well. Surrender to what is. And wait to discover what will be, with an open curiosity and joyful gratitude. Because that does matter, in this moment.

Unrepentant? That’s ok!

True unconditional acceptance must be exactly that. It does not require the participation of the beneficiary. Synergy does not require confession or atonement. She does not demand recognition or obedience. These are constructs arising from overthinking, from judgement, from the disconnect between Eidolon, Matter and Synergy.

Everything and everyone is welcome. Religion is not the will of the universe, but rather an echo of the universal truths put into material context. Even if you don’t believe in an intelligent design, you will return to the collective consciousness. Even if your material existence was filled with negativity and you caused others pain, you will be balanced and not punished. Because truly Synergy created each of us thus has ultimate responsibility for our actions so how can she reject us for her failure to elicit satisfaction, understanding, curiosity, gratitude and hope?

When a teacher has students failing in the classroom, they can either examine how they teach and grow from that reflection, or they can blame the student and remain stagnant in their hubris.

Synergy is the ultimate mother, the ultimate teacher. She tries, tries, and tries again to figure out how best to share the vast knowledge contained in Eidolon. Yet few of us grasp her presence and even fewer fully accept and surrender to her will. Don’t mistake piousness and abstention for understanding. It is easy to think you understand something by thinking on it but only those living life to the fullest- meaning exposure to all of its problems and passions – are able to clearly speak from the Eternal mind.

Hypocrisy destroys even the most accurate messages. Judgement drowns out even the most sincere of lessons. Sincerity and authenticity are tangible not only in eyes and voice, but even in print. The words of so many sound wonderful but feel just a bit off, like shoes that just don’t quite fit right as you walk in them but you can’t place exactly why. Because of the undercurrent of fear, judgement and resistance that permeates so much of our lives but are not blatant nor intentional.

There is no right or wrong. Let go of all judgement. This does not mean take actions in the future which intentionally cause imbalance in others – since we’re all connected that causes imbalance in yourself – but don’t hold on to what has happened to bring the world to this moment, don’t blame yourself or others. Take responsibility for what actions you can take every moment of your life from this moment forward, and only look back for information if necessary, not for recrimination. No repentance required!

Keeping Score

Keeping score is natural! That’s exactly what balance is. But our mistake is in seeking balance from those who unsettled us, expecting restitution from the ones who hurt us.

Admittedly, that is the most direct and satisfying way to restore balance. The one who broke us best knows what they broke, how they broke it, and how best to put it back together. This is why we so passionately seek healing from the source of our pain. But those who hurt others are themselves hurting thus are not equipped for reparation unless they too are ready for repair.

Synergy gives us all the tools we need to restore balance when it’s been stripped from us. Whether through no fault of our own, or because of our poor decisions and resistance to her will, she forgives all and accepts us unconditionally. We don’t need to ask for forgiveness or apologize to her, we don’t need to worship or praise her. We just need to listen to her gentle guidance and accept her generous gifts which surround us.

Satisfaction in life does not require religious practice or atonement or penance for past imbalance. Acceptance is complete surrender to the idea that everything, including the past, had to happen to culminate in the powerful moment which is here and now.

Globally, locally or individually the scoreboard needs to be reset to net zero before we can have balance at any level. We need not only to forgive ourselves this day, but everyone else in the world no matter how heinous their actions. Truly embracing mindfulness and enlightenment means ultimately EVERYONE AND EVERYTHING at this moment is EXACTLY how it was meant to be, that necessary things are in place.

Judgement is resistance to what is. Resistance is the source of imbalance and pain. Judgement does not create solutions nor hope for better. Acceptance and open curious reflection do. Keeping score is a judgement of the past which inhibits the power of the present moment, the only place where balance can be found.

Balance can’t arise from the past or future. It can only be grasped in the now. Synergy lays it out for us every moment, offering to heal us with what she knows is best for us so long as we aren’t fixated on what restitution we see as fitting.

Look around. What have you been offered today as a gift from Synergy? Is it my words you stumbled upon? An unexpected contact who lifted your spirits? A rainbow when you needed it? She’s there, sending you her love. Like a mother, she demands nothing in return but for you to accept her support and let her cradle you in peace and satisfaction.

Two Wrongs may Make a Right

Life is about balance. When we are in balance Synergy rewards us with profound insight, peace, hope, and joy. We reward her with gratitude and curiosity. There is no right or wrong, only balance and imbalance.

But imbalance is everywhere and quickly disrupts even the most stoic and centered of us. Cycles of negativity and patterns of toxicity persist through generations, accumulating in our collective psyche like mercury bioaccumulates in fish.

We can restore balance by piling positives on our scale, which is how most people approach the issue. Sadly, this becomes an exercise in frustration because the ratio of positives to outweigh negatives can be intimidating and exhausting. It always seems to take so much more effort to build up than to tear down! Especially when intentionally seeking to restore balance this way on a personal, community, or global scale. At times, these efforts can bear fruit with immense energy expended on righting wrongs and mending fences.

We see those as right, actions that benefit others. We see as wrong actions that harm others. This is the way it should be, where things which bring us all lasting pleasure are sought and those which bring any of us pain are resisted. But we live in a deeply flawed world where all are out of balance.

Where some turn to the second way of restoring balance – transferring negativity onto someone else! Projection, rejection, abuse, murder, crime. These are all strategies to alleviate imbalance, used by those unable or unwilling to restore their inner peace by cultivating positive balance through trust, curiosity, and surrender. It is so very easy, and admittedly, so very satisfying to give in to the impulses which hurt others. At times, these efforts can bear fruit when perpetrators become victims and learn lessons from having done to them what they had done to others.

We try so hard!

And there’s the trick! To not TRY to restore balance with intention or thought or purpose. Doing so is a type of resistance to what is. Trying to save the world won’t save you. Trying to save your neighbour won’t save you. Trying to save your child won’t save you.

Synergy will guide you through restoring your inner peace and calm once you surrender to her wisdom. Surrendering actually clears the weights, alleviates the burden of imbalance for you! Once you release the pain of your emotional response to the wounds of the world and yourself. Once you accept that everything around you is the way it had to be in order for you to become what you are meant to be. Only then you will see what you need to do today to begin your journey to optimal function and ultimate peace. Everything you need already waits to be discovered, hidden in the story of your life. Your balance is unique to your needs but crucial to healing our universe and restoring the net balance.

Yes, the world has suffered. Cruel, terrible things have happened, causing pain to so many. Sharing in that pain through commiseration does not serve a higher purpose of learning from the pain. Resenting the perpetrators and sickening yourself with anger and bile does not heal the imbalance which allowed horrible things to twist our world away from joy, gratitude, and playfulness. The net balance is Synergy’s to manipulate, not ours to judge. Judgement clouds purpose and absconds with playfulness.

Accept the horrors that are. Be present in this moment to understand what it feels like. Listen for Synergy to tell you what you can do to balance yourself which will help balance the world. You can’t effect change from a position of imbalance or hypocrisy. If you are not living a life of joy, curiosity and surrender, your efforts to change the world are simply another expression of resistance which exacerbates the conditions rather than alleviates them!

We are where we are. The culmination of millenia of imbalance. But we have this moment of global pause from which to restore peace, joy, and playfulness. Two wrongs may sometimes make a right.

Resistance is Futile…or not

Resistance is part of our human nature. We are designed to resist temptation to hurt each other. We are compelled to avoid causing deliberate fear or pain in others. We have urges to resist suffering on an individual and community basis.

Resistance training is used to build physical strength, and so too does resistance training build spiritual strength if appropriately and effectively managed. Where problems arise is from poorly directed resistance and misapplied strength.

Again this is not about good and evil or resistance to wrong, because identification of wrong and evil requires judgement. We are but children, uninformed and limited in our perception, thus our attempts at judgement are akin to asking a toddler their opinion on what the family rules and expectations should be!

We resist what we fear, what we do not trust, what we cannot understand.

The antidote to resistance is trust, faith, and curiosity.

Trusting in Synergy, that she will provide and make everything ok, gives the most incredible sense of comfort and relief. She is the mother who consistently and perfectly understands her children and ensures they have what they need while nurturing their independence and individuality. Love without conditions or expectations.

From this trust rises curiosity about what exactly she offers. There is such exquisite joy to be found upon waking each morning like it is Christmas and the day is the present under the tree waiting to be unwrapped. Such wonder to gaze wide-eyed on the world seeking the tools for understanding hidden amongst the distractions of the surroundings.

It’s those distractions for which resistance needs to be exercised. That is not to say the Escape Room clues are not embedded in movies or songs or video games, in fact they can be! Your favourite book, the movie which haunts your thoughts, or the song that resonates with you soul? Those ARE your clues to the meaning and purpose of your life!

By analyzing the patterns and interests which call to you, and resisting or ignoring the distractions which perhaps are expected but not fulfilling to you, you can learn who Synergy sees inside of you! You can begin to understand your purpose and release the patterns of resistance which cause you pain.

Resistance is futile and painful if you resist the wrong things, but is beautiful and admirable when applied as integrity and courage on the pathway to enlightenment.

A Moment of Choice

Every moment of every day, we have choices. Just because the outcome of a choice is unpleasant does not revoke our ability to choose. There is always a choice, including inaction which is the choice to surrender to the will of others.

Surrender is at times an excellent choice and one we were designed to do. Surrender is not giving up or giving in, it is giving trust to Synergy. To surrender is to accept what is, and to allow the moment to proceed as it needs to until a moment of meaningful choice presents itself.

What defines a moment of choice? The immediacy of action. If I ‘choose’ today to get a medical degree, that is not truly a meaningful choice in this moment because I cannot GET the degree right here and now. Thus this choice is not binding to me, there is not an ultimate immediate result from the perceived choice. It is a wish, not a choice.

A moment of choice is that instant when you recognize action is possible. When you feel the power of potential and promise permeate your brain, screaming ‘Now! Do it now!’ In the movies, you see the hero saying ‘Wait for it…wait for it…’ That truly happens in real life as well but only if you’ve surrendered to Synergy and have faith in yourself to recognize the when you have been waiting for.

True choice is about seeing an opportunity when it happens and being prepared to follow through on it then and there. It is about closing your eyes and diving in if that is what feels like the right decision in that moment. True choices are made in a moment of true connection with the universe and are rewarded by amazing results even if everyone else was unable to understand or relate to the choice being made. Those who surrender to Synergy are the ones who seem to always be in the right place at the right time to make the right choice.

That is not a coincidence.

Visualizing verses Awaiting

‘Tell the universe what you want!’

‘Ask for what you need!’

‘Set goals and go for them’

Great advice? No…hubris.

We are but children playing at understanding what we want and need. A toddler may very clearly state she wants to eat candy all day, and her desire to do so is valid and real, but we as a parent know that she is unable to understand the biological needs which render her wish inappropriate. So we ignore the immature perspective, place a nutritious and hopefully artfully prepared and playfully enjoyed meal in front of the child to coax her to partake of what she needs rather than what she wants. Yet, a good parent does not stuff the food down her throat nor punish her for her innocent attraction to sweet and pleasurable fare.

Synergy knows what each of us needs in every moment. She sets the table for us. Yet so many remain blind to the sumptuous repast because of the fixation upon what we think we desire.

When we visualize our goals, we are the toddler fantasizing about lollipops and gum drops. When we specify what we want, we are demanding obedience from a parent who knows what is best for us, and in doing so we fail to be open and ready to feast upon the opportunity generously served to us at the periphery of our tunnel vision.

Greeting each moment with open curiosity about how our current needs will be met creates panoramic vision. Trusting Synergy to provide for us rather then instructing her to do so leaves room for us to learn from her. This does not mean doing nothing. This means being ready to do anything! This does not mean having no goals. This means being prepared to seize any goal in the moment it becomes accessible to you.

Each moment is an escape room puzzle that, if you read the clues properly, lifts you into another level in the next moment. A scaffold to take you to your highest potential. Only Synergy knows what that is, so don’t put blinders on by narrowing your options through setting premature parameters and binding boundaries.

Look around every moment and learn to recognize the tools, gifts, clues and synchronicities unique to your life journey. And then make use of them to discover what opportunity awaits you! It’s what we were designed to do.